An Alternative View of Style

This is a slightly different article to the one I’d intended to write. Originally I was going to highlight a rather unfortunate, and extremely irritating, problem with new online retailer Mr Porter. However, on the brink of having to take them to Court they did what they should have done in the first place and all is now well. Come on guys. It was a credit to a photo, I wasn’t asking you to splice DNA together!

But it got me thinking. We frequently talk about style on this website, and attempt to define it. So many people, media folk and retailers bandy about the word ‘style’ as though merely saying it often enough made it so. Slick expensive advertising campaigns mean nothing to me. A retailer may stock some beautiful clothes but its ‘all the gear, no idea’ if they can’t conduct themselves in a manner that matches the rhetoric.

I’m sure we’re all familiar with the famous quote by Mark Twain that “Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society”. No pun intended, but Twain was very wide off the mark.


When British actor, raconteur and man of style David Niven died the porters of Heathrow Airport sent a wreath of flowers to his funeral. Attached was a note that read:

“To the finest gentleman who ever walked through these hall’s. He made a porter feel like a king”.

True style is as much about behaviour, or attitude, as it is the clothes you wear. Some of the most unpleasant people I’ve ever encountered had wonderful tailors. Take, for example, the famous photo above of Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra arriving at Heathrow Airport. I’m sure we agree both men look suburb, and their talent, exploits and dress are celebrated. They are adored, and both are regarded as icons of style. But by all accounts Frank Sinatra had a fierce temper and would frequently threaten hotel porters and the like with a visit from his gangster mates when displeased. Conversely, Dean Martin – that womanising drunk we all know and love – drank apple juice on stage and slipped away from parties early to watch TV in his bedroom, like the happily married and faithful man he was. Changes the nature of that picture doesn’t it. Well it does for me; one has style the other is merely a pretender.

Too often when we talk about ‘style’ our terms of reference hone in on the kit and that alone. It is an affliction shared by individuals, magazines and retailers alike. That’s why, for example, I’d rather read The Rake magazine over GQ, or shop at an independent retailer.

Last week I visited Erlend at Stephan Shirt’s. He really is a lovely man of infinite good grace, for whom nothing is too much trouble. Everybody who comes in is made to feel special and treated with the utmost care and attention. I’ve recommended him to friends and they all share that opinion. For me a visit to Stephan Shirts is a pleasant hour spent discussing men’s clothing and world affairs. Something similar could be said of Nino Santoro and his sister Angelica at Nino’s Shirts. Such things are easier for bricks and mortar businesses, but online retailers could certainly take a leaf out of Adrian Herring’s book at Herring Shoes. He, for example, likes to handle complaints and queries personally, despite selling shoes all over the World. Each pair of shoes is cleaned before posting and arrives complete with complementary shoe horn, bags and polish. People who care about people, selling beautiful things fairly priced. The way it should be done.

I suppose what I’m saying is that in my view ‘style’ is and must be the tangible and intangible; and it isn’t something you can buy, sell or fake.


  1. Dr Kilroy said:

    Mr Porter “style” guide is terrible! They say that you can undone your bow tie when wearing dinner suit! :/ They also joke about taking hat off in presence of women…

    Best regards, Dr

    April 4, 2011
  2. seth said:

    I’m sure the uneducated louts inserted an apostrophe after “hall” to indicate a plural. Just as you did.

    April 4, 2011
  3. Michael said:

    Well said Andrew.
    I agree with your comment about Herring Shoes in particular. Their service is gold standard and an example which other retailers online or otherwise, should emulate.

    April 5, 2011
  4. Mr. Williams, ever so delighted to read your perceptive comments on why our Dino “has style” while Frank “is merely a pretender.” Never was, never will be anyone as cool as the King of Cool…oh, to return to the days when Dino walked the earth. Know that your reflections are being shared this very day with the readers of ilovedinomartin.

    April 5, 2011
  5. gary said:

    i think if you become obsessed about clothes you are slightly deranged.I tjhink clothes should just be enjoyed and clothes have nothing to do with real character. some great dressers are wankers

    April 5, 2011
  6. Eli said:

    I agree with your overall point, and I’ve also heard the same about Dino…but I’ll have to do more research on Sinatra because all I know about him was that as the leader of the “Rat Pack” he broke down more barriers against blacks and Jews in Vegas using his clout than any other celebrity or politician of his day. Would be a pity to let a few accusations define him and his life. By the way, I think Cary Grant would be poster boy for sartorial grace!

    April 5, 2011
  7. Terry Magnum said:

    Andrew, while I agree with your general point. Style and a persons behavior are not linked. I think it may best be said that Sinatra lacked grace.

    Any man can acquire style, but only a gentleman possesses Style & Grace.


    April 8, 2011
  8. While both style and grace (let’s talk about behavior here!) should be linked, unfortunately they aren’t! All too often I come across impeccably dressed high powered city workers with manners associated with unruly children. I think if you’re in the public eye or fortunate enough to have become successful, then your manners to others should come first – let’s be gracious gents!

    April 11, 2011

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